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Maybe you’ve heard the pessimistic adage: Put a penny in a jar every time you have sex the first year of marriage. Every year after that, take a penny out each time.

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Can You Experience a Flow State During Sex?

New research shows that flow is a predictor of sexual satisfaction.

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People often ask us if there are sex toys that are good for certain kinds of people. But neither sex toys, nor people, work that way. When it comes to what turns us on, we?re all a little bit different, so despite what the books on sex over 60 may say, there aren't toys that are made for people over 60 any more than there are toys made for people in their 20s (other than the packaging, which is often geared to specific age groups).
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However, it’s not so easy to give up our old beliefs about sex. So let’s start right there… Most of us get our fundamental ideas about sex from our childhood. So ask yourself: What are my family beliefs about sex? How have these beliefs helped me? How have they held me back? Take a look at your current sexual life. Ask yourself: What do I have to celebrate about sex? What are some of the most wonderful sexual experiences I’ve had? How have these experiences changed me? Are there any obstacles you have to celebrating your sexual self? Consider: What stands in my way of enjoying a terrific sex life? Am I holding onto any old ideas that hold me back sexually? Do I have any physical challenges that hold me back sexually? Celebrating your sexual fantasies: can you enjoy them without all that old 20th century guilt and shame? Do I let myself have sexual fantasies? If so, do enjoy them? What are some of my fantasies about sex? Have I ever fulfilled a sexual fantasy? When and how? Are there any sexual fantasies that I would really like to experience? If so, how could I make them a reality? Celebrating a well-balanced sexual life: In my humble opinion, a well-balanced sexual life involves our head and heart, not just our genitals. What role does your head (thinking) play in your sexual life? Do you want it to be more or less involved? What role does your heart (feeling) play in your sexual life? Do you want it to be more or less involved? What role do your genitals (libido) play in your sexual life? Do you want them to be more or less involved? How can you balance your head, heart and genitals to make your sexual life really alive? A happy and healthy sex life is a major part of our mental and physical health. If we are willing to see our sexual expression as a wonderful and essential part of who we are, we have the capacity to be mentally and physically healthier than ever before. So, let’s stop focusing on what’s wrong with our sexual lives and – instead – let ourselves CELEBRATE sex and let our sexual expression help us heal emotionally, spiritually and physically.

"Sex is full of lies. The body tries to tell the truth. But, it's usually too battered with rules to be heard, and bound with pretenses so it can hardly move. We cripple ourselves with lies."
— Jim Morrison

The World Health Organization (WHO) defines sexual health as "the state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being related to sexuality;

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Having sex three times a week can make you look nearly a decade younger, says research out of Scotland's Royal Edinburgh Hospital. Neuropsychologist Dr. David Weeks studied 3,500 American and European volunteers between the ages of 18 and 102 found that their youthful looks were only 25 per cent due to genetics. The rest was related to behaviour, including sexual behaviour, says the research. Weeks, author of Secrets of the Super Young, attributes the anti-aging properties of sex to dopamine and human growth hormone -- powerful substances released during the act that are thought to slow the aging process.

Laci Green shared her four-step guide to “The Best Sex Ever.”

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Alex Comfort writes that “sex ought to be a wholly satisfying link between two affectionate people from which they emerge unanxious, rewarded, and ready for more.”
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You might think being noisy in the bedroom is just a matter of personal preference. But in a lot of ways, there’s
a strong connection between sexual health and being vocal in bed...
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"To figure out what to do, you'd need more than knowledge – you would need intelligence," and my inventions...
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A survey by La Trobe University of over 8000 people found only 46 per cent of men and 58 per cent of women were satisfied with their current frequency of sex.
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There can't be any jealousy. It's all about having fun....
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If you believe the ads from drugmakers such as Solvay Pharmaceuticals, you might well think that getting a testosterone prescription is the key to save a faltering sex life in middle age.

But a new study adds to evidence that men’s levels of the hormone can vary quite a bit without causing sexual problems like impotence and decreased libido.
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She then compared low-versus-high testosterone participants and their self-reported levels of desire. In men, she found, levels of testosterone had nothing to do with how much guys thought about sex, solitary or partnered.
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When the topic of sex toys comes up, you may here people laugh or say he or she does not need to use a sex toy. You may even be one of those people who laugh, or snicker at the thought of using a vibrator, masturbation sleeve, or other sexual product. Depending who you speak with, there are individuals who are afraid to use or buy sex toys out of fear of embarrassment, shame, or the feeling of being desperate. Although I work in the sex toy industry, customers who I have spoken with come from all types of backgrounds, have different types of careers, including singles and happily married couples. Before you or someone else judges sex toys or the users of sex toys, read the below rumors. It is time to set the facts straight about adult toys and understand why an individual can benefit from using a sex toy.
Rumor 1 - Using sex toys are for sex maniacs, perverts, and desperate individuals.
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Let’s look at what goes on in the brain during sex and orgasm. Although you may think everything happens between your legs, the experience of orgasm actually occurs between your ears. All thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations you have correlate to specific nerve cells being activated. Orgasm, like all experiences, is brought about by electric impulses flowing along paths of connected nerve cells. Orgasm happens when specific pleasure pathways are turned on, while your defense pathways are turned off. All this happens by means of chemical messengers and the nerve cell receptors they bind to.

Beyond my wildest fantasies, dont you want to be there, every time, any time...

(I don't believe in the easy way out, but rather the smarter way out.)

Never let it rest, before good ( ejaculation ) is better (muscle contractions), and better is best ( orgasm ).

It takes two to tango, as the saying goes, when the tango is done on the dance floor, but it takes three to tango in the bedroom... if you want the out of breath, out of body, can you believe it is actually happening kind of sex, every-time, any-time.

A male is interested in sex with one woman up until the point of orgasm, at which point he will immediately lose interest, fall asleep, or perhaps wonder off to find more action...
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What do sex columnist Dan Savage and politician Newt Gingrich have in common? Probably not a lot, but they have both been in the media recently in regards to open relationships.

What Are People's Perceptions of Open Relationships?

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I call this type of sex the “oh shit, oh shit, oooooh shit” orgasm because the psychological framework goes like this: “that feels good. That feels really good! (then, the moment after orgasm)… Oh shit, what have I done?” In my research there was a common narrative: the desire for orgasm temporarily squashed their socialized (and deeply held) sense of morality.
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"If you yourself are in a very dangerous situation, whatever the reason, you don't have sexual feelings, because you have to survive for yourself, not survive for the species,"

Money, sex and kids are the three biggest areas for conflict in marriage...